Ethical Failings Regarding Gender and Identity in America: Changing the Narrative From Feelings to Facts

By Tricia Moffit

These are tumultuous times we live in, amidst a clash of ideals, a pendulum swinging from one end of the ethics spectrum to the other over “values” and “beliefs,” that all too often forget to even consider ethics when evaluating ones perspective on what they feel is right or wrong, instead of gaining some wisdom from Nonmaleficence, the very core of ethics that says, logically, that which causes harm is actually wrong, and we have an obligation to do no harm. [1]

The “fuck your feelings” crowd of conservative, religious extremist, patriarchal, outdated archaic ideals would still have you believe their feelings, that gender roles are even legitimate, whether it be the toxic masculinity and rape culture feeding of insecure men like recently deceased waste of flesh Rush Limbaugh[2] or the internalized misogyny of insecure women like the troglodytic Transformed Wife[3], telling women that our place is traditional wife, homemaker, beast of burden, incubator and birthing portal, meal cooker, house cleaner, obligated and subjugated as property of a man, with no say over sexual consent (indeed, some of these motherfuckers still try to deny that marital rape exists), no need for pregnancy consent (i.e. denial of right to birth control and abortion services, or this fucked up practice of needing a husband’s consent for tubal ligation), no financial independence, hell, they even try to *justify* spousal abuse and blame the victims…. And their disgust for women doesn’t stop there, if you choose to forgo marriage or are in a non-traditional marriage/partnership, choose to forge your own path with a career and not a family, use birth control, have a normal healthy sex life that isn’t limited to one partner for life, or even so much as be an ally and voice dissenting opinions to their diatribe of bullshit, then you’re a whore, slut, going to burn in hell, whatever emotionally and psychologically abusive vitriol their tiny little minds can conjure up during moments of their inability to control their own emotions…. if you’re not just a woman but also BIPOC, and/or a lesbian, bisexual, queer, trans or gender non-conforming, they bust out a special level of bigotry and abuse, out of a delusional wish that we simply would not exist or occupy space in public life, and especially in politics, claiming that by merely being ourselves we’re somehow “pushing our agenda down their throat,” when really they’re salty that we stopped allowing them to push their feelings and beliefs down our throats.

To that, I say Fuck THEIR Feelings.

Their irrelevant vitriol no longer has any place in society, it sure as shit has no place affecting anyone else’s lives, to be fuckin honest it’s downright abusive of them to even be teaching these ideals to their children[4], causing their own kids to commit suicide for not feeling accepted, indoctrinating them that they’re to either be an abuser or the willingly abused under false premises of a 2 gender dynamic and roles to abide by within it. Its an even larger abuse upon the populace as a whole, when the bigots fail in their efforts with the direct narrative abuse against individuals, and turn to writing their fucked bigoted feelings into law. Some even train their children to enter politics[5], to push for archaic legislation that seeks only to cause harm to others for not abiding by this fucked beliefs-centered narrative that has absolutely no place governing the People.

It’s time to change the fucking narrative.

For starters, let’s talk ethics. An action is wrong if it causes harm to another person, if it violates their inherent human right to not be harmed, a right which we are all born with, which does not vary according to someone else’s ignorant opinions about the value of your life, these rights are not given by and cannot be taken away by other humans, but it is up to us to ensure that they’re legally protected against those who would inhibit this right to hot be harmed. This begs the question, who is being harmed by feminism? By women and non-men having careers, financial independence, and therefore a greater ability to leave abusive relationships? By women and non-men choosing to not have children at all, or to have children with a partner of the same gender? By having multiple partners of varying genders, or in an otherwise not-heteronormative partnership? The answer is absolutely no fuckin body is harmed here, or by these being legally protected rights for individuals to safely and comfortably exist as they are. The only harms happening in these vicinities of society, is when the bigots try to legislate their feelings and beliefs into law, to try and tell others how to live, to inhibit the rights of women, non-men, and LGBTQ… and it seems as much progress as we’ve made concerning women’s rights, gay marriage equality, trans rights, and educating society on these rights and intersectionality, there’s always *some* motherfucker who ascribes to one or more of the bigoted facets listed above, who wants to push back with counter legislation, such as the trash Religious Freedom Restoration Act[6] that allows business owners to discriminate against women and LGBTQ and claim that some shit that’s none of their business is somehow violating their religious fortitude, (such as employers limiting what birth control their health plans offer to employees, denying jobs or firing due to pregnancy, refusing a service based on someone’s assumed gender, identity, or sexuality) when truly they’re just crying fake tears of delusions of grandeur, “if you don’t let me discriminate against others, that’s discrimination against me,” which simply is not how anything works out here in reality.It is only ethical therefore, to actually ban any legislation that would inhibit the rights of women and LGBTQ to freely exercise the pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness.

That said, the question begs, HOW do we change this inherently fucked dynamic of politicized religious extremism that still rears its ugly head in attempts to oppress? Let’s start with not re-electing all these old men who are completely out of touch with how society has shifted over the last few generations, with unseating the women who do not represent us like the over enflamed Q bigot Marjory Taylor Greene who bigots so hard she felt the need to put a sign on the door of her congressional office, saying “there are TWO genders. MALE & FEMALE. Trust the science!”[7] when, actually, science says humans come in XX, XY, XXX, XXY, XYY, and more[8] … Let’s start electing *actual* leftist women, BIPOC, and LGBTQ candidates in such large numbers that we actually get represented. Fuck their feelings, the FACT that we are humans entitled to human rights supersede their feelings about it.

We need to push our employees in Congress to pass the Do No Harm Act[9] to protect the civil and human rights of women, LGBTQ, non-religious people, and religious minorities that are being attacked under the false guise of RFRA trash bills. The DNHA was just re-introduced in the House of Representatives on Feb 25th 2021, so now is the perfect time to reach out to your employees in Congress and remind them that their job is to work for their constituents, ALL of their constituents, and that any votes that go against our human and civil rights will be met with unseating their asses and replacing them with candidates that actually represent us, remind them that the privilege of serving in Congress can and will be taken away from them if they do not act according to the will of the People. And if they fail, hold true to that word and vote them the fuck out.

Take to the streets and be seen, take up the pen to write your employees in Congress and be heard, become the legislators and take these seats away from bigots, speak with or start independent media and amplify our voices, make bigots uncomfortable as you own your right to exist freely, stand in solidarity with our comrades in this fight, until the system no longer has the option to ignore us when the legislation is on the table.